….It’s true what they say that Love hurts

The intricacy of committing to it without expectation or agenda

The pain of rejection when you just want to support

The hurt of undeserved judgment when you just have pure intentions

The tragedy of envy from others when Love works for you

….In the face of pain and agony, why do I choose to Love?

When I can go the different way and leave them in their misery?

When it is easier not to care because they couldn’t care back?

When what you get in return is something you are not worthy of?

When all you’ve ever hoped for is for them to recognize that Love is the answer?

….Despite the difficulties, I choose to go back to Love

Where forgiveness sets me free

Where compassion becomes a cure for the pain and hurts

Where patience brings out hope for the troubles that it brings

Where tolerance and acceptance glues the indifferences…

…I trust in Love because everybody deserves to be

I trust in Love because there is so much pain already

I trust in Love because that’s the best I can give

I trust in Love because that’s the Greatest Power God has given us

I thrust with Love because it moves us to the Heavens that we deserve…

… So let us Love until it is Difficult NO more…

HAPPINESS

Ahh… that ecstatic feeling!!!Such wonderful sensation that makes you feel all warm inside and having all the love flow inside your system, truly magnificent and builds an assurance that everything is working great in your life…

That’s exactly how I feel right now, its so much different writing about it and trying to put into words when all you want to write about can be put into a simple emoticon like this J !!!

I am one who is always in pursuit of understanding LIFE, what makes us who we are, what makes us tick, what brings us joy, what created our personalities, where did our values come from, what’s the essence of Catholicism, Buddhism, Kabbala, Taoism, Humanism, and etcetera, etcetera… and the more basics of all things, “How do we sustain HAPPINESS?”

I think everyone is in pursuit of this state.I know it can be difficult at times but everything we do in life is all about feeling this way.I’ve tried to simplify my goals in life, and it all boils down to being HAPPY!

The mind boggling and surprising of all is that when I am in this state, everything that I want in life is happening in fast pace.All the things that I visualized and imagined that would happen to me perfectly did just that, It happened.

I’m gonna try to tell you stories that has been happening and that has transpired in my life.I’ll be speaking of a lot of clichés right now but mind you the wisdom that can be drawn from it and once practiced can be very valuable in our everyday struggle…

1^st cliché:“HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE!”

Society made us feel we belong, but sometimes it also discriminates us because they try to project that we are never going to be happy unless we’ll have what they have.Like a car, a house, a six digit salary, a fulfilling career, and what I have been always asked lately, “a romantic relationship.”I do believe that these things can give us glee, but why should we be unhappy when we don’t have those things?

I just recently realized that I have a lot of things to be happy about.And what made me aware of these is because of a very simple practice.It’s all about “GRATITUDE!”Hah! How cliché is that!But it did work for me, I woke up one day and said thank you.I thought of things and just felt grateful and said thanks.It boosts my mood to a jolly state and just made my day…I never thought that a sincere THANK YOU could maneuver my day into sheer delight…

And I guess its just common sense.Should we choose to be miserable or happy?I hope you choose the latter, coz what good will it bring you if you chose otherwise di ba?Unless you are happy being miserable… then again that’s a different story…

2^nd cliché:“HAPPINESS IS IN THE DOING!”

A friend of mine wrote in a very small post-it and pasted it in my notebook, and read just that.Let’s hide her name by an alias of Ms. Kay Calpo.. haha… peace!Could it be cheesier than that!?!?Yeah let the cringe begin!

But philosophizing it could give you again, wisdom.I’d like to believe that we do things because it gives us happiness, but of course there are things that we do that we feel we don’t have a choice but to do it. And unfortunately we think that it is robbing us of our happiness.

Again it is a matter of common sense.Why would we do something that we know will not give us joy?Isn’t that being dishonest with ourselves?Who are we trying to please?Definitely not yourself…

Crazy right? But if we focus on the end result, and look back why we feel we sacrificed a lot and did what we did.There is a compelling reason.The root why we do things, looking at it deeply, we did it because the end result would give us happiness.

3^rd cliché:“HAPPINESS BELONGS TO THE SELF-SUFFICIENT!”

WOW PARE, DUDE BIGAT!!! That came from my good old friend ARISTOTLE, pasensya na kayo adik talaga sya…

But it makes sense right?We can only be grateful for the people who bring us happiness but if we build expectations from them, that could only give us a broken heart and worst is we begin to destroy that person and strip them of their own happiness.One piece of advice, don’t depend your happiness from another person because eventually that person will go away or die, and tell me where will that lead you?

A person is never beyond our control.Keep trying that and I could only interpret you as, SELFISH! pakshet…

I’ll end my clichés with those, coz all the hairs in my body and what is left in my head are all standing up and the goose bumps are starting to itch.. but let me quote my KUMPARES because they are the cringe masters and they make you puke like hell, but they’ve always left a smile in my face… here they are:

Claude Monet:

The richness I achieve comes from Nature, the source of my inspiration.

Buddha:

Happiness comes when your work and words are of benefit to yourself and others.

Carl Jung:

There are as many nights as days, and the one is just as long as the other in the year’s course. Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word ‘happy’ would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.

Ecclesiastes:

For everything there is a season,
And a time for every matter under heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die;
A time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
A time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
A time to embrace, And a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to seek, and a time to lose;
A time to keep, and a time to throw away;
A time to tear, and a time to sew;
A time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate,
A time for war, and a time for peace.

Felix Adler:

The truth which has made us free will in the end make us glad also.

Franklin D. Roosevelt:

Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.

George Burns:

Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.

HH the Dalai Lama:

When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.

Henry David Thoreau:

That man is richest whose pleasures are cheapest.

John D. Rockefeller:

I can think of nothing less pleasurable than a life devoted to pleasure.

Kalidasa:

Listen to the Exhortation of the Dawn!
Look to this Day!
For it is Life, the very Life of Life.
In its brief course lie all the
Verities and Realities of your Existence.
The Bliss of Growth,
The Glory of Action,
The Splendor of Beauty;
For Yesterday is but a Dream,
And To-morrow is only a Vision;
But To-day well lived makes
Every Yesterday a Dream of Happiness,
And every Tomorrow a Vision of Hope.
Look well therefore to this Day!
Such is the Salutation of the Dawn!

Mark Twain:

Whoever is happy will make others happy, too.

Mohandas K. Gandhi:

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.

Ralph Waldo Emerson:

To fill the hour — that is happiness.

Sophocles:

Wisdom is the supreme part of happiness.

Thomas Jefferson:

But friendship is precious, not only in the shade, but in the sunshine of life; and thanks to a benevolent arrangement of things, the greater part of life is sunshine.

LIFE COACH by: Coy Sta Maria

What is it? The internet describes life coaching as a process that entails working with a person and focusing on the client’s personal life to allow the client to excel by developing his/her latent competencies to it’s full potential.

It’s not psychotherapy - although both field works with the client’s personal life. The idea of having a life coach is for one’s goal to be re-directed & to be focused. Re-directing .. creating .. Imbibing the feeling.

Great words; but are these people powerful enough to actually redirect one’s perspective to be patterned to their kind of thinking? Hmm .. I don’t think so. Mine did not. In fact, one of my life coaches was never professionally committed to take on the task.

He was a friend who later became a buddy, a brother, consoler, taga libre ng kape & so on and so forth .. until I woke up one day and realized that he was not a savior, nor a saint but simply a friend who was challenged by me and my adversities and that his role was not to save but to comfort and to be a stilt for me to lean on.

Quoting his words; ‘my predicament looked like peanuts compared to yours’. If life coaching talked about tapping one’s best to reach one’s potential to be financially able then I can’t consider session’s with this guy as such. However, no amount of riches can equate the outcome he has given me bec. of these sessions.

Junathan, Badong, Bro, Koya - these are but some of the names everyone calls him. For me, I simply call him Joaquin - a person who I consider as one of the angels God has here on earth. He has this knack of borring into a person without stepping into one’s private turf.

Drawing out, that’s what he does best - for he believes that life’s answer to issues and challenges depend not in others but within oneself. Interesting ha? Wait till you get to talk to him. He has this way of asking nerve-racking question when you least expect; AS IN!!!

He’s simply not content in just peeking into one’s lives but opens the pandora box when he feels you’re comfortable enough. The odd thing though is despite not putting your guard down, you’ll ironically find yourself drawn and blessed by these sessions.

Huh? Profound? Nope. Simply put - if you’re one of those searching for clarity in life, seek him out - but if you’re aim is to just fish around and do mind-boggling games, I suggest you run fast cause he’ll see through you.

He’s not a creature nor a pest, like I said earlier he’s neither a saint nor a savior. He’s simply a person who’ll give you the time of day; someone who’ll go the extra mile of figuratively dragging a mirror in front of you to aid yourself sort through your tangled mess.

These description of who he is and what he has done to me doesn’t even come close in putting a mental picture of how special and how remarkable this person truly is. Wisdom drawer, career adviser, remarkable guy - add these all and I’ll only come up with one line to say:

This is how this life coach was and is to me. - an angel sent from above.