LIFE COACH by: Coy Sta Maria

What is it? The internet describes life coaching as a process that entails working with a person and focusing on the client’s personal life to allow the client to excel by developing his/her latent competencies to it’s full potential.

It’s not psychotherapy - although both field works with the client’s personal life. The idea of having a life coach is for one’s goal to be re-directed & to be focused. Re-directing .. creating .. Imbibing the feeling.

Great words; but are these people powerful enough to actually redirect one’s perspective to be patterned to their kind of thinking? Hmm .. I don’t think so. Mine did not. In fact, one of my life coaches was never professionally committed to take on the task.

He was a friend who later became a buddy, a brother, consoler, taga libre ng kape & so on and so forth .. until I woke up one day and realized that he was not a savior, nor a saint but simply a friend who was challenged by me and my adversities and that his role was not to save but to comfort and to be a stilt for me to lean on.

Quoting his words; ‘my predicament looked like peanuts compared to yours’. If life coaching talked about tapping one’s best to reach one’s potential to be financially able then I can’t consider session’s with this guy as such. However, no amount of riches can equate the outcome he has given me bec. of these sessions.

Junathan, Badong, Bro, Koya - these are but some of the names everyone calls him. For me, I simply call him Joaquin - a person who I consider as one of the angels God has here on earth. He has this knack of borring into a person without stepping into one’s private turf.

Drawing out, that’s what he does best - for he believes that life’s answer to issues and challenges depend not in others but within oneself. Interesting ha? Wait till you get to talk to him. He has this way of asking nerve-racking question when you least expect; AS IN!!!

He’s simply not content in just peeking into one’s lives but opens the pandora box when he feels you’re comfortable enough. The odd thing though is despite not putting your guard down, you’ll ironically find yourself drawn and blessed by these sessions.

Huh? Profound? Nope. Simply put - if you’re one of those searching for clarity in life, seek him out - but if you’re aim is to just fish around and do mind-boggling games, I suggest you run fast cause he’ll see through you.

He’s not a creature nor a pest, like I said earlier he’s neither a saint nor a savior. He’s simply a person who’ll give you the time of day; someone who’ll go the extra mile of figuratively dragging a mirror in front of you to aid yourself sort through your tangled mess.

These description of who he is and what he has done to me doesn’t even come close in putting a mental picture of how special and how remarkable this person truly is. Wisdom drawer, career adviser, remarkable guy - add these all and I’ll only come up with one line to say:

This is how this life coach was and is to me. - an angel sent from above.

Of Nostalgic 10 Years…

4 April 2007

Four corners of a room with a busy feel

Reminders of triumph of 10 years

Colorful, beautiful and comforting

Wonderful moments frozen by such keepsakes

Mementos smiling back from wooden and steel frames

Of loved ones from the past and the present

However cheerful it should feel

These things just stare

Without a voice, or warmth or scent

Good ‘Ol Silence becoming a gloomy company.

10 years it has been

Of days of struggling and just living

The chosen path endured and achieved

A long way from the innocence departed

And in a waking chance you realize

Important parts of life is put to sacrifice

Wondering where they have gone

Or rather not choosing over them was worthwhile

The value of thy self transformed

In an identity unrecognized

10 years past.

Now being mindful of the precious things

Where shall it lead? 10 years forward…